How best to relate with foster children
Keywords: househelp, maid, domestic servants, nanny, good treatment, children, school, 9 points, foster child, daughter, adopted child
HOW BEST TO TREAT YOUR HOUSEHELP
Below are the pictures of my sister with her little daughter and her foster daughter
HOW BEST TO TREAT YOUR HOUSEHELP
1. Enroll him/her in the same school with your children: The best thing you can do for your foster child is to enroll her in the same school with your biological children, be it private or government school. There is a saying that what is good for the goose is also good for the gander. The first step in maltreating foster children is sending them in a school different from the school of the master/mistress. If truly you want to show compassion to your maid, start with this.
2. Get good clothes for him/her: Let no one differentiate between your children and your foster child by mere looking at their dresses. While shopping for clothes, shop for your foster child too. He/she needs to look good.
3. Provide good shelter for him/her: Shelter does not only mean living in your house, making sure he/she sleeps on a good foam, sleeps under mosquito net, and in a well-ventilated room is also part of providing shelter for her. Some foster children are given rooms in a place that can only be reserved for animals and yet the mistress feels she has done nothing wrong to the child.
4. Give her good food: The food you eat should be the food he/she eats. Some people are good at feeding their foster child with soured and left -over food. Some madams go as far as ensuring that the children of the family eat first before the house-help to hedge against food wastage by turning the foster child to dog. Please Ma/Sir; give her warm food just like your children!
5. Play with her sometimes: If you want to know how wicked some people are, go to their house and watch how they treat their foster child. The same way you play with your children, also play with your foster child sometimes to make her feel human too. It is not every time that you have to shout at your house assistance to drive home the point that you are the boss and she the sub-ordinate. Every human sometimes in life have the need to feel belonged.
6. Let her get close to her family: The truth is when you treat your foster child right, there is no need to be scared of taking her to her family house. The major reason people fear to take their maid to their family house is because of maltreatment. They are afraid that they maid may not be ready to follow them back to their house should they set their foot in their family house. The truth is if the maid looks well taking care of, the parents will encourage her to follow you back even if she decides not to follow you as a result of being a child.
7. Let your children respect her self-worth: Have you ever been to a house and see a seven year old child calling a grown-up foster child by her name and talking to her as if they are mates? The parents encouraged that. Teach your children how to respect your house-help. The respect accorded to them by your children can also extend to you because children who talk to their maid anyhow might one day talk to you the parents the same manner.
8. Put yourself in her shoe sometimes: As a human, we do forget things, fall sick, get tired etc. so why beat your foster child up because he/she forgot one or two chores you assigned her? When he said that he is tired, can you try and understand for once? When she said that she is feeling sick, get her some drugs and allow her to take some rest. All these things may seem trivial but are very crucial in dealing with other people’s children.
9. Show her love: One would wonder whether all that have been written above is not love. This point come to show you that they content in this write-up is not exhaustive. Just apply the golden rule principle in your dealing with your house assistance. Do anything that keep him/her happy while protecting your interest and that of your family.
10. Don't just read, apply all that you have read here and share this post to your friends.
7. Let your children respect her self-worth: Have you ever been to a house and see a seven year old child calling a grown-up foster child by her name and talking to her as if they are mates? The parents encouraged that. Teach your children how to respect your house-help. The respect accorded to them by your children can also extend to you because children who talk to their maid anyhow might one day talk to you the parents the same manner.
8. Put yourself in her shoe sometimes: As a human, we do forget things, fall sick, get tired etc. so why beat your foster child up because he/she forgot one or two chores you assigned her? When he said that he is tired, can you try and understand for once? When she said that she is feeling sick, get her some drugs and allow her to take some rest. All these things may seem trivial but are very crucial in dealing with other people’s children.
9. Show her love: One would wonder whether all that have been written above is not love. This point come to show you that they content in this write-up is not exhaustive. Just apply the golden rule principle in your dealing with your house assistance. Do anything that keep him/her happy while protecting your interest and that of your family.
10. Don't just read, apply all that you have read here and share this post to your friends.
Below are the pictures of my sister with her little daughter and her foster daughter
Great Article, I sincerely think every soul is precious before God Almighty, and privilege people in the society should treat the less privilege as such
ReplyDeleteCorrect buh will some people do these?
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