THE MOST EFFECTIVE AND PRAGMATIC WAYS OF COMBATING MASTURBATION

Masturbation is one of the most devastating habits that when formed is always difficult to stop. Most adolescents masturbate even though not all will admit to it.

James my undergraduate roommate was in the habit of keeping to himself in public. He is always shy and quiet whenever he is around girls but yet he is outspoken in the hostel. This made my roommates and my classmates who also visit me in my room to wonder why a grown up man will not want to chat with girls just like an average guy yet he pulls down the room whenever he is around the hostel. I later discovered the secret behind his unusual quietness among the opposite sex which is the fact that he is a chronic masturbator.  

Masturbation affects both male and female folks even though emphasis is always laid on the male gender when it comes to this topic. Masturbation is one of the topics of controversies when it comes to sexual matters. Many argue that masturbation is good and harmless while others see masturbation as something that is devastating and appalling. If you fall into the category of the latter school of thought who perceive masturbation as immoral and unhealthy and you are looking for ways to stop it. Here are some practical tips that can aid you in slowing down and possible stopping masturbation.

1.     ALWAYS ASSOCIATE YOURSELF WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX: people who always masturbate are people who hardly relate with the opposite sex. The see the opposite sex as a mystery and thus find it very difficult to approach them rather they resort to fantasizing and thinking about them whenever they are alone which finally leads to masturbation. The truth is, there are some levels of satisfaction derived by associating with the opposite sex which will enable you to reduce the rate you think about them in your solitude.

2.     EAT AND DRINK WELL WHENEVER THE URGE FOR MASTURBATION ARISES:

Like I said earlier, this post is a practical and pragmatic approach to curbing and possible stopping masturbation. Most will tell you to go carry your bible and read but I would suggest you go and look for something to eat and possible drink enough water afterwards. This will help to reduce the urge to masturbate and sure before you are done eating, you must have forgotten about it.

3.           DECIDE TO STOP MASTURBATION:

One of the differences between guidance and counseling is that guidance is one-way approach to instruction while counseling is a two-way approach. In counseling, the counselor does not meet or confront the client rather the client has to go to the counselor, explain his problems and allow the client guide him/her in the appropriate ways he could overcome his problem. This is applicable to masturbation. You by yourself have to make that bold decision that you want to stop masturbating and not because you read online or someone somewhere told you that masturbation is not good and hence you are forcing yourself to stop it.

4.           TALK TO SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU:

This is the most powerful yet most difficult step to take when trying to stop a bad habit. Imagine telling your parents, your friend, or your roommate that you masturbate? The reaction from them will not be funny but truth is that is the most effective way of actually ensuring that you stop masturbating. The reason being that people close to you who least expect that you masturbate will start keeping eyes on you and the thought that they have known that you masturbate and thus whenever you intend to masturbate your mind will be telling you that they might catch you or even when you are done masturbating, that they might sense that you just masturbated which will put imaginary fear in you and thus helps you to stop masturbation.

5.           STOP ANYTHING PORNOGRAPHY:

This is the last but not the least approach to stopping masturbation. This is truth that cannot be overemphasized. Sexual urge leads people to visit porn site, read porn magazine or read erotic novels/stories. As well doing any of the aforementioned leads to sexual urge but whichever way it goes, the end result is that you would want to satisfy your urge or release your tensions whenever your urge is high. So the best thing to do is to either avoid deliberately engaging in pornographic content in order to arose your sexual feelings or engaging in them as a means of quenching your sexual thirst because the end result is always masturbation.

DISCLAIMER:

I PERSONALLY WROTE THIS ARTICLE, THEREFORE THE CONTENT OF THIS ARTICLE IS SOLELY MY OPINION AND PERSONAL FEELING/EXPERIENCE WITH PEOPLE AND NOT BASED ON ANY SCIENTIFIC RESEARCH AS SUCH CONTRARY VIEWS AND CRITICISMS ARE WELCOMED